Honour Based Violence - Practical Information
Have a bag packed with:-
- spare clothes;
- keys, forms of ID such as passports, visa
and work permits;
- child benefit documents and other welfare
documents, toiletries, driving licence and vehicle reg
- any prescribed medication you or your
children may need;
- National Insurance numbers, other documents
such as Police reports, courts orders etc
- Phone numbers, mobile phone and money in
case you have to leave quickly.
Try to keep your mobile phone charged and with you at all
times. If you're afraid that it will be found, leave it at
work or with a friend. If you can't keep original copies of
important documents, try to obtain and keep photocopies. Talk to
your children beforehand about the possibility of leaving in an
emergency if it's appropriate. You may want to agree a codeword or
a plan with them. Make sure you take your children with you when
Leave when safe to do so.
If you later discover you have left something essential behind,
you can always arrange for a Police escort so you can return for
The chain of events needs to be broken and a range of
organisations are working to do this.
Individuals also have a part to play. For those people
experiencing honour based violence or forced marriage the support
of a trusted friend can be invaluable.
Keeping safe if you decide to go abroad
Make sure you seek some advice from support agencies where you
Let support agencies or a trusted friend know when you are going
and returning, where you are going, address, passport and flight
Keep your phone with you at all times and take some money with
Make sure you remove all traces of all contact with support
agencies. Delete your computer history if you have been on support
agencies websites. Use the internet in your local library, at an
internet cafe or trusted friends
Try to keep records of what, when and where incidents
Incidents could include:
- Stalking or abusive telephone calls, malicious post or e-mails
or face-to-face abuse.
- You should also ask for the details of any witness to those
- Write any information down as soon as possible, whilst still
fresh in your memory.
- Write down what the suspect looked or sounded like, including
the clothes they worse and any distinguishing features. If you saw
a vehicle record the make, model and colour. If possible try to
remember the registration number.
- Let the police know if anyone else perhaps your neighbours, saw
or heard what happened.
- Tell neighbours, friends and colleagues what is happening and
ask them to keep a record of anything they see or hear you may also
like to ask who regularly visit your home e.g. your postman/milkmen
to keep a lookout too.
- Evidence from a security camera in a plain view is acceptable
evidence in court. However any evidence gathered without permission
eg by using a hidden video camera is not admissible.
It is important to keep envelopes, as well as the content;
envelopes can also be used as evidence.
Try to handle items as little as possible and keep them in a
safe place or with a trusted friend.
Tape, record telephone conversations if you can and be sure to
keep the tape.
Keep any stored voicemail messages or texts and write down
numbers from mobile telephones.
Write down details of any text messages and the content of any
calls, including the callers number and time of message/call was
received. If calls are received on your landline or answer machine
dial 1471 and write down callers number/time of call and any other
Keep any details in a safe place or with a trusted friend.
Other means of communication i.e. e-mails
Print and keep a file of copies of any emails.
Print and keep a file of copies of chat room conversations.
If necessary, download any stored material onto a new blank disc
or CD and label each item with date and time.
Do not delete any relevant data.
Do not tamper with any computer. Keep any copies/evidence etc in
a safe place or with a trusted friend.